From the moment we wake up till we go to sleep we’re engaged in an INNER DIALOGUE with ourselves. The inner dialogue that we often ARE NOT EVEN AWARE OF but that has a tremendous effect on how we feel, act and what we experience.
Yes, WHAT WE THINK MATTERS. A lot. Because what we think is also what we CREATE. Our thoughts either help us move forward or they hold us back. They either support us to get what we want or don’t.
The same is true of QUESTIONS we’re constantly asking ourselves. THEY DO MATTER. They either give us answers that are helpful or not. They‘re either RIGHT or NOT
Yes, there are basically 2 TYPES OF QUESTIONS you can ask yourself.
Let’s say you’re facing a bigger challenge or a setback. You can’t see a way out of it yet and you feel worried, discouraged, sad and stressed.
WHAT QUESTIONS do you ask yourself in this situation?
A. ARE YOU ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS SUCH AS:
- Why is this happening to me?
- How comes I didn’t know better?
- Why me?
- What have I done wrong?
- How on earth I’ve ended in this situation?
- Why I couldn’t find out of this?
- What have I done to deserve this?
OR
B. ARE YOU ASKING YOURSELF QUESTIONS SUCH AS:
- What next step can I take now?
- What is the easiest way for me to move forward?
- What can I do to feel better?
- What options do I have?
- What solution would be best for me now?
- How can I learn from this?
- Whom can I ask for help?
Can you SEE THE DIFFERENCE between QUESTIONS A and B?
The 2 TYPES OF QUESTIONS put you in a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT POSITION in relation to THE SAME SITUATION.
When you ask yourself QUESTIONS such as A, they fill you with self-judgement, self-criticism and guilt. They keep you focused ON THE PAST and KEEP YOU STAYING where you are.
When you ask yourself QUESTIONS such as B, they OPEN YOU TO SOLUTION. They make you FOCUS ON THE FUTURE and support you to find the best way to move forward.
2 TYPES OF QUESTIONS that give 2 COMPLETELY DIFFERENT OUTCOMES. The RIGHT QUESTIONS EMPOWER YOU while the WRONG ones don’t. The RIGHT ones help you rise above any situation and MOVE FORWARD in the best possible way, while the WRONG ones KEEP YOU STUCK where you are.
The more you learn and practice asking yourself RIGHT QUESTIONS, the more happy,confident and powerful you‘ll feel. Because when you ask yourself the RIGHT QUESTIONS, you’ll also get the RIGHT ANSWERS. The answers that are best for you exactly where you are.
It’s not very difficult but it takes constant PRACTICE. Practice to be AWARE OF THE INNER SELF-TALK that’s running inside of you all the time.
When you’re AWARE, you have a CHOICE.
A CHOICE to ask yourself RIGHT questions or not.
A CHOICE to move forward or to stay where you are.
What do you CHOOSE?
